As Featured In:

logo1
logo1

Sexual Intelligence® Blog: Latest Posts

Does Sex Still Matter?

In modern America, sexual expression can’t simply be a private act.

Whether people acknowledge it or not, America’s ongoing War On Sex means that each sexual choice we make either challenges or supports a complex political ecology. This structure involves fundamental issues like who controls our bodies; whose relationships are legitimate; which activities are considered “normal”; and the role of erotic pleasure in the lives of adults and of children.

Consider the current sexual issues now under scrutiny by the government…

Continue Reading
0 Comments

Sex Questions I Usually Don’t Answer

Every week I ask patients lots and lots of questions. Sometimes I get a straight answer. Often, someone will dance around an issue, or avoid the question by answering a different one.

When patients ask me a question, though, I either give them a direct answer–or I challenge the question itself.

Here are examples of questions that I generally don’t answer directly–because I’m challenging the assumptions…

Continue Reading
0 Comments

The State Of Our Sexual Freedom

Approaching the anniversary of our country’s freedom, what’s the state of our own sexual freedom?

There are many external restrictions on our erotic expression such as the criminalization of abortion, attempts to eliminate adult pornography, and the censorship of both school and adult libraries.

But there are many internal restrictions we place on our own sexual expression–and these prevent us from using the sexual rights that we do have.

Continue Reading
0 Comments

“Are We Incompatible?”

Many couples who ask me if they’re incompatible ARE. But they don’t want to hear it, certainly not that directly.

These people often love each other, and think that “love” is enough to make a relationship work. But it isn’t. Shared values are crucial, and many loving couples lack these.

Sexual discrepancies–desire, frequency, variety, etc.–are among the hardest to navigate. Therapy may be of only limited help in such a situation.

Continue Reading
0 Comments